The aim of relationship counselling is to provide support to 2 people who are in conflict whatever their relationship (Spousal, parent/child, colleagues).
Conflict might be in the form of repetitive arguments that seem to go round in circles and are never resolved. Often one party gives up and becomes resentful, withdrawing from the other party. Usually there is hurt, frustration, anger, exhaustion and hopelessness on both sides.
There may have been a particular incident 2 people can not get past.
In a spousal relationship there may have been an infidelity, leading to a loss of trust and a deep sense of betrayal that seems impossible to get over.
Sometimes a couple feels that they are past the point where a relationship can be saved, yet neither partner has the courage to admit this to the other or even themselves.
Many arguments are underpinned by issues around trust, respect, intimacy and closeness, and difference in life expectations.
During the assessment session, we will discuss your goals and what you perceive the status of your relationship to be.
I will support each of you in expressing your hopes and expectations for your relationship, what has gone wrong for you and what needs to change. I will support you in making constructive agreements and learning more effective ways to resolve problems.
I will aim to provide a safe space for both of you so that you can say what you need to say. I discourage name calling, interrupting when someone speaks and belittling during the session. I will also ask you not to argue with each other about what one of you has said in the session when you have left.
In a spousal relationship I will not keep secrets for either of you. Whatever you share with me, whatever the circumstance, will become part of the session and will potentially be shared with your partner. This does not apply to other kinds of relationships where I will use my discretion in what I perceive to be the best interest of both parties.